A Mistresses’ View of Male Chastity
I want to discuss the psychology behind the Mistress enjoying male chastity. I so frequently discuss the psychology behind it from the perspective of the submissive that I sometimes forget to give you a well-deserved peek behind the curtain to see why it is that Mistresses crave putting you in cages. So why do women love cock control? I believe that many of the same reasons still apply as do with the men who love cock control, such as power dynamics and control, issues regarding identity, stress relief, pure fetishization, etc.
The Real Reason Women Crave Male Chastity
But I also think there are some deeper issues at play as well. And before I get into them, let me contextualize this discussion. I believe in archetypes and shadow work, meaning I believe that one of our core responsibilities as humans is to make the unknown known, to make the unconscious conscious. And on a deeper level still, I believe that we must process our primal emotions to achieve true health… or even a semblance of stability and sanity, quite frankly. BDSM has traditionally been an excellent container to process emotions such as rage, fear, disgust, lust, loss of control, etc. We create a safe, sane, consensual container to play together, and then process some pretty dark emotions in scenes together. What does this mean in terms of cock control? What, specifically, are women processing when they claim ownership of your cock and balls as her property and locks it up?
I believe that women crave control over cock as a way to process their rage of oppressive control, and control that specifically centered upon our sexuality. There is almost an act of taking back our control by taking control over YOUR genitals, men, to see how you like it. The role reversal of women dominating men is so appealing to both men and women precisely because it is counter culture and it is subversive, because that level of domination has typically been reserved for men. So stepping into that role is wildly exciting. Controlling your sexual pleasure, men, is so thrilling precisely because it is a twisted revenge for all the times you have controlled our pleasure, through shame or disinterest.
I think culturally we live in a society that caters to the male gaze and that our sexual lives are centered upon male pleasure. Cock control and male chastity turns that notion on its head, and in that way, it can have real life impacts on deconstructing a system that decenters women’s sexual power and pleasure.
Finally, I think that women just love cockteasing because it is fun. You get to hear those cute little whimpers and listen to them beg for mercy, you get to watch their cute little faces pinch up in sexual agony. It’s literally adorable.
Closing Thoughts
In summary, I am a believer that we are essentially working through our personal and spiritual problems with our sexual play, in an archetypal nature, on a universal level, on a soul level. So when I think about chastity I think about the war between freedom and oppression, between safety and thrill. On a societal level, I feel like women are working through some of their grief and anger towards men with male chastity play as well. There are a lot of dichotomies you can play with in the realm of male chastity, a lot of conflict you can process out in real life, in an embodied way. Why, when you think of it that way, chastity play can almost be a form of somatic therapy, using the physical sensations associated with chastity to process emotions. I also think of it as an act of service towards your mistress, empowering her to own your cock at a very real, tangible level, allowing her the space and time to work through some of her own emotions as she helps you through yours.
Well written and insightful as always!!
Thank you, my love!
Very interesting Ms. Becky. I wonder if all males should be locked in chastity and give up power to to women. It just seems like that women are superior to men in every way. It just seems like that all men do is screw everything up. The reason why the world has all these problems is because of this.
On of the reasons i love ignore calls is because there is a power exchange.
Oh, you should look up my Tale of Two Outcomes blog from a while back. It compared the outcome if all the men disappeared vs all the women. It was quite interesting. But I think I’ll keep you around, you seem to want to make yourself useful! LOL
Great post, Ms Becky! Chastity as a way for Mistress to turn around the male centered freedom/oppression mindset that they’ve traditionally forced on females makes a lot of sense. For me, my loss of control is a major attraction. But an even bigger attraction is when I realize that the Mistress is enjoying what she’s doing to the extent that she feels an almost sadistic pleasure from the power it gives her. That instills a (thrilling) fear that once I’m locked, she can do ANYTHING she wants, including physically shrinking my clitty down to a nub.
Right? And cant you feel good about helping her process some of her baggage? Its truly a gift!
I’ve never done chastity before!!! It’s how how all of you dress guys as girls and lock them up !!! But!!! If this happened to me I wouldn’t be able to get hard or off if you dressed me as a girl and be put in chastity 😭😬😞😳
Thats right, Carli girl. Thats exactly right!
I know my penny size penis…clit… deserves nothing but permanent chastity. I also love your idea that it is penance or even revenge for years of male patriarchy… Mist treatment of women.. I hope to be one of the subs in the Vanguard of changing that dynamic
You would totally be in the Vanguard, dickless. I love that idea!
Imagine a world where women not only locked up all the men in chastity, but also then decided to deny us relief FOREVER. How emasculated would we feel? It would be the total end of the Patriarchy. Sexual crimes would be over. Women could safely walk around dressed as provocatively as they pleased without fear of any male misbehavior. The more sadistic among them could go out of their way to tease us, knowing we were to be forever frustrated. Eternal blue balls. A perfect way to get vengeance on us — right where it hurts. And just think what women could do if they REALLY got pissed at us. Becky, thanks for the great post!
Mmm, I know exactly what world you are envisioning. I fucking LOVE it! Thanks for the excellent reply