Ms Becky Discovers Anal

Alright, butt stuff here we cum! Woo hoo! So, I am a total butt slut myself, so I am thrilled to be discussing it. My fascination began early, and I desecrated almost all of the taper candles in my home until I was able to get a vibrator to fuck my tight little asshole with. And by the time I finally took a cock in my little rosebud, I swear to GOD, it slid right in with no problems at all. I was genuinely impressed with myself and told everyone about my little jedi mind trick for taking a big cock in my rear end- oh, by the way, here it is: you want to push out, which relaxes the muscles so he… or she… can slide right in. I do have several strap-ons that I play with myself, you know, and I love to fuck my sweet subbies with it. My bf won’t let me- he’s a bit of an alpha sort himself, though he certainly doesn’t mind topping a sweet subby boy either.

Thoughts on Receiving Anal from Femdom Mistress 

So I really like primal fucking, almost a bit violent and animalistic and not just giving- I really love receiving too. My bf has a truly exceptional cock- damned near 10 and that’s the fucking truth. He makes me work for it, which I love. He tells me I am his perfect girl- nice tight pussy and a nice accommodating asshole for him. So let me give you some of my impressions on what’s happening on an emotional and psychological level when he is railing me from behind like a little fuck toy. I don’t mind being a bottom, but you have to bring your A game if you want to top me, because I am at best a brat, and at worst, I may end up dominating you (don’t worry boys, you’ll like it, I promise). However, my standards for a top versus my standards for a bottom are completely distinct, for obvious reasons.

Here are my impressions on being on the receiving end:

1) Surrender: Because I do try to be in control so much, there is something very yummy about surrendering completely, placing myself in someone else’s care for a change. I do think the feminine is me wants to receive as much as the masculine in me wants to give, so I have no problem embodying both of these roles at will.

2) Accomplishment: I mean, there is something so satisfying about taking a thick cock like a champ, isn’t there, fellow butt sluts? Its kinda the same feeling I get when I have drained a cock into my pretty little mouth. I am a huge fan of Cirque du Soleil, especially the physical performers, because they embody the utmost limit of what a human body is capable of. For those of you who dont know, Cirque is a circus without animals, and its a combination of acrobats, dancers, singers and some of the greatest performances Ive ever seen and cant quite explain. But there is something about pushing a human body to its capacity that I find really arousing. Even the feeling of being physically stretched to my limits really turns me on.

3) Giving pleasure: Listen I’m a dominant lady but I’m still a lady- I love to give pleasure to my fuck buddies, and I love being a source of pleasure. My lovers tell me how tight I am, how good I feel, how I am milking them, squeezing them so snuggly. Its a ego feeding event and I very much enjoy a good meal of praise, you know?

4) Getting pleasure: Have I mentioned how much I enjoy the sensation of a thick juicy cock sawing in and out of that tight hole? How much I like to be held down, covered with a muscular hard body, ridden like a sleek sports car, hard, fast, pounding speeds? Well, consider yourself in the know now, because I very much do. Not only do I love the sensations of that cock inside me, stretching me fully, but also the sounds of his harsh breathing, growling, breathing in my ear (I like to be fucked doggystyle when I take it in my cute little butt, and very much love to watch). I like being covered and warmed by his body, hips held in place, made to take him, unable to resist. Its fucking hot, right? Although I am a sadist, I also enjoy receiving a bit of pain, just a smidgeon. I really enjoy any sensation play overall.

5) Giving the finger to the man: Tell me not to do something, and I will absolutely want to do it. I love the idea of being a dirty girl, a filthy girl. I love to be naughty and break rules and defy expectations. I revel in my filth, and anal is just a vehicle to be a dirty girl, yes? Forbidden fruit is ever so sweet, isn’t it?

Thoughts on Giving Anal Play & Pegging from a Kinky Femdom Mistress 

Subbies, we have a very different relationship dynamic. You satisfy my need for control, but also my need to give. My dominance is very much a pouring into you with myself, a concentrated flow of my energy, my emotion, control, sexuality, and ability to make your dreams cum true, your deepest darkest fantasies. I also feel like I am kind of a “Shame Eater”, a secret collector. I attach an almost spiritual level of significance to my ability to connect with, to see my sweet subby boys, to understand and accept their gifts. So, with my subbies I am nurturing them with my gifts while feeding off their gifts, as well as getting down and dirty, filthy, and being served sexually.

So when it comes to anal training, there are a couple of goals that I have in mind, in no particular order:

1) Giving Pleasure: I know there is a lot of pleasure to be had with anal training and for guys and sissies, it is one of their only holes to stuff, and the only way to achieve and access their prostrate, which is essentially the male g-spot. Off the bat, I know that it is a place that can bring a lot of pleasure to a person. I quite enjoy giving pleasure- that is something that satisfies both my sweet little heart and also my sweet little pussy. And I love to be able to give those sensations and experiences to someone, and especially love if I can be the one to introduce them to it.

2) Shame: I very much enjoy confronting the shame aspect of anal. I think there is a very rich sense of shame that can be tapped into on many levels. The first level of shame is that its such a dirty spot, isn’t it? Such a nasty dirty hole, and we as humans carry SUCH shame about our bodies. I enjoy crushing that shame, but also inflicting it. I mean, I’m a complex and multifaceted lady, friends. I rarely have one motive and try to just keep up with the primal dance of all my desires best I can. I guess it’s a matter of confronting it, acknowledging it, making you embody that shame, as standing on as almost a sacred witness to your shame. My little sadist heart enjoys watching the process of that happen, unfolding before my eyes, manipulating it to my will and for my pleasure. Ultimately, I also enjoy that in having you embody that shame, experiencing it in front of another person without catastrophe happening- we start to move away from that as a species. I play the long game, folks. I have always had a very poor reaction to the ridiculous levels of shame we attach to our humanity. I personally have a saying that I feel truly describes the goal my soul had before embarking about this journey here on earth. I think I came here to play in the dirt- and I make no apologies for that. I use the words filthy and dirty all the time- know why? Cause I like to get dirty and filthy, and I always have. And I felt a lot of shame about that in the past, and it irritated me. The expectation of being polite, respectable, of being a good girl and not fingering my tight little hole got me annoyed enough to fight back, and I am way scrappier than I look. So basically, I enjoy that anal forces us to confront the sacred nastiness of our bodies and that we are able to use that shame to create orgasms.

3) Gender Bender: When I am fucking a man with my big thick cock, I am directly, with the utmost aggression, smashing the patriarchy, yes? I am, quite literally, cornholing the gender roles. I am sodomizing the shame toxic masculinity has imbued men with regarding their bodies, their pleasure, and weirdly, their buttholes overall. I mean, truly, there is an issue with men not wiping well enough because it is considered gay to touch their buttholes. I won’t get too much into it but google it. The info is out there, sadly. I enjoy confronting the internal homophobia that exists with all things butthole, when it comes to men. The fact that they can receive so much pleasure, but they have been programmed to feel this unnatural shame regarding a place that has 1000s of nerves and pleasure centers. And using their shame against them, to allow them to embody these shameful experiences WHILE IN A SAFE AND LOVING ENVIROMENT where I know they will be able to process some of this shame without long lasting negative effects can help diminish some of structures I genuinely despise. So, I’m literally just “being the change I want to see in the world” when I put you on your hands and knees for me, right? Say “thank you, Ms Becky“.

4) Embodying the Masculine: Now I’ve spoken into a lot of the pleasure I get out of giving when I am sodomizing one of my sweet boys or sissy girls, but there is also a lot of pleasure that I am receiving whilst riding them too. I love taking on that really aggressive, toxic masculine role, embodying the force that has hurt me, using the weapons of my oppressors to inflict upon them what they have inflicted upon me. By the by, I hope y’all understand I talk in very flowery metaphors, and I am a bit in the clouds and very spiritual- I am not talking about me having experienced any specific violence. I’m speaking into the forces of toxic masculinity in my life and in the world. But its a truly healing journey for me to embody that role, use you to purge myself of that violence, that pain, that sacred rage, pounding it into your empty vessel, filling you up with my control. So, while you embody the wounded feminine, I get to embody the violent masculine, and in doing so, we both start to chip away at the foundations of a structure I believe has not served any of us well. There is a deep pleasure in taking on that role, seeing with the male gaze, truly allowing my masculine to take over.

5) Grinding on my clitty & cumming: I honestly love the feeling of pegging. I position my harness just right, and work that cock just right, and usually cum several times at least. I get so hot from all the power, just towering over you, seeing you so vulnerable, so trusting, so servile, patiently waiting for me while offering your hole to me. I work my clitty the entire time, sometimes even using a microvibe (though that can get wildly intense). I like the rhythmic pounding, embodying that aggressive stance, that energy, I love hearing your whimpers and moans, making you beg and plead, confess all your sins as I fuck you just like a girl, yes? So the overall experience of it is sexually satisfying and very pleasurable for me.

6) Im a fucking sadist *shrugs*. Of course I enjoy making you take a hard cock in that tight little hole. There is the potential for a lot of pleasure… or a lot of pain when it comes to anal. And I like to be in the position (lol, excuse the pun) to give you either… or both. So of course I like giving you the physical and emotional discomfort that comes along with being ridden hard and put away wet.

7) Possession: I really love making the abstract tangible, and what I mean by that is if I own your body, then I own your body. This abstract concept of ownership in made tangible, real, and concrete by the fact that I can possess any part of your that I want. Your body is mine to do with as I please and I love the thought of taking control of you fully.

8) Forbidden fruit: I love the fact that anal is considered dirty and that good girls don’t do anal, so the idea of doing anal as the giver, with my big thick cock jutting between my legs- well, that hits the spot, folks.

Anal Play

Now let’s talk a little about all the ways we can enjoy anal: 

Analingus

First off, every species enjoys a bit of analigus with each other. Humans aren’t special in this regard; we are only special in the fact that we have attached shame to it. I love the feeling of a warm, wet tongue licking my rosebud so sweetly. Why do I like it? The sensation itself is divine, but moreover, I enjoy being worshipped head to toe, fully accepted in all my human glory. Anything that allows us to celebrate the wholeness of the human experience is right up my alley (haha, get it?). I enjoy a full throttle, no curves left behind sexual experience and analingus just… hits the spot. The power dynamics gets to me, even down to the positioning showcasing my superior power. The humiliation factor is hot as fuck too. Making a subby boy get down on his knees and worship my ass, especially if its done to specifically deprive the subby of pussy, can be very erotic.

Anal Fingering

I love making my subbies finger their butthole for many reasons! The positioning is awkward and I enjoy the physical humiliation of making them reach back there to prepare their hole for me. I am currently working with one of my sluts, sissy bimbo tati, and she fingers her hole daily for me. We are working to ensure that all of her pleasure is associated with that sissy pussy of her, and anal fingering before playing with her pussy is a great way to go. This can help prepare the hole to accept me, as my strap on is a full 10″ and despite my sadism, anal tearing is no fun and is such a drag for me. Plus, it feels super slutty (ask me how I know, I dare you) so its effective in bimbo training. With sissies, it keeps their hands off their clitty, as they are trained to move away from the concept of owning a cock. Replacing the language of cock to clitty is not always enough- sometimes it is better to lock them up in a cage and work on anal training for pleasure so they understand their new reality, you know?

Toys/Stimulation

So there are a ton of fun toys for our back doors, friends. I remember by “the scorpion” which was a clitoral stimulator with a long bendy tail that went up my rear end- oh, I liked that very, very much. But I am going to tell you a secret that I usually only share in session- when I have some solo Becky time with myself, I always have something vibing on my asshole. When I am fucking, I truly enjoy it and its a welcome addition, but there is enough additional stimulation and sensations that I dont need it, but when I am flying solo, I like to engage my cute little rosebud, lol.

Strap-on & Pegging

photo courtesy of bushytails 😉

Now I am an avid fan of strap on play, for reals. I love grinding up against your ass with my strap on as I fuck you- I truly get orgasm after orgasm after orgasm riding you. I dont know if you could tell, haha, but I am extremely affected my the psychological aspects of dominance- the perspective of towering over you, the sounds of submission, your whimpers and gasps and pleading, and the reversal of roles. Pegging is an activity that appeals to all sexual orientations, by the way. I know a lot of straight guys who do not like real cocks that love a lil bit of Becky moving around inside of them, ok?

Anal Sex

For the culmination of all things anal, taking a real cock in your back door truly does feel sooo naughty and filthy- I fucking love it. From the slutty positioning that makes me feel so fucking beautiful, to the sensation of fullness, to the availability of my pussy to be petted and stroked…. I quite enjoy me some anal. As far as why I think its effective for subbies, there are a couple of things that stand out to me.

• Ownership: The idea that your holes are not your own anymore, that I own them and can use them in any way I like is fucking hot.
• Humiliation: There is nothing that breaks the spirit of a subby boy than his first anal experience if he is one of those macho faker types.
• Confronting internal homophobia: There is nothing I find more obnoxious than prejudice, bigotry, or any of the -isms that we face in today’s society. Confronting that head on (tehe) and eradicating it in the most filthy manner possible is so satisfying
• Pain play: Though I do not favor any ripping, I do enjoy a a vigorous ride and ensuring that you feel me quite heavily, yes? My inner sadist enjoys anal both physically and emotionally.
• Freeing our Inner Sluts: So yes, I am a sadist, but I like to aim my sadism to be in alignment with my sincerely held beliefs. I hate the way we have cloaked our sexuality in shame and hate the way we oppress, repress, and otherwise stunt our incredible journeys in these incredible bodies, so capable of pleasure and sensual delight.

Tips for Safe Anal Play

Lube up: vaginas are self lubricating, but not so much with our anus. You are going to want to spend a little time preparing your hole to ensure both your comfort and safety. Anal tears fucking suck, people, for both of us. You heard how much I like riding in your hole, right? Ruins all of our fun!

Beware of numbing creams or things that interfere with a pain signal: Hey, I enjoy a variety of party favors myself, but we spoke about pain already, right? It is a signal our body gives to let us know when danger and damage is near, and thats a really good thing with anal. We want to know when something is damaging us, so we can address it. So, do you, but do think about the long term consequences not just the short term, ok?

Work up slowly: Anal is something we want to work up to as to avoid that pesky ripping or unwanted pain and damage. There is no shame in starting with one finger, than more, than a small toy, then a medium toy, and then a large toy. Once you can safely ride a large toy, well, you may just be ready for a bit of Becky, huh?

Clean up: Before and after, babe. We like to play with clean holes, ok?

Wrap it up: Anal cause more internal tearing and microscopic tearing is very typical. Because there is a greater risk for internal tears, there is more of a risk for STIs. Its vital to practice safe sex with non-monogamous partners.

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