Now let’s get into these sissy privacy strategies. Last week we discussed a few of the reasons that people want privacy, now let’s talk about the best privacy strategies for playtime. I drew heavily from a video posted in our own Enchantrix Empire but sadly for the life of me I can’t remember who posted this video, but it was a gem and I appreciate you. The video was “Living as a Sissy Without Anyone Knowing: Privacy Strategies That Work” by Kathi King. It was honestly perfectly timed- I already had this episode planned out when this video was posted, so I took a listen, took some notes and wanted to share them with you. 

Sissy Privacy Strategies

Storing your Sissy Paraphernalia

Invest in locked storage containers that can be placed under the bed or in the back of the closet. Keep the keys mixed in with other keys so that it doesn’t stick out and keep your keys on your person as much as possible. Now if you live with someone, this may be a bit awkward- you having a big locked storage container that you won’t allow others to see inside. Consider alternative hiding places, like the foam ceiling panels in your basement, if you have one of those (Florida girl here so that may not work for everyone). Many people live with others but may have a personal vehicle that isn’t shared by anyone else, and you can put a locked storage container in the truck of your car. Consider investing in offsite storage or a lock box. Remember that vacuum sealed bags exists, so you actually do not need as much space as you think you do, as long as you have access to a vacuum cleaner that you can use privately. Vacuum sealed bags also prevents scents from escaping, so if you enjoy perfume or scented laundry detergent, this is an ideal option to ensure that not only can your items not be seen, they also can’t be smelled. What we are trying to do if hide these items away without rousing curiosity, because if someone’s curiosity is piqued they will likely investigate. I also have a lot of clients who “borrow” clothes from their partner for playtime, which are already available in their homes and do not have to be hidden, though they may need to be cared for very carefully so they aren’t soiled or otherwise noticeably affected. Additionally you may not be out to everyone in your life, but its possible you have someone in your life who you can trust, and you could possibly store your items there.

Shopping for Sissy Items

Shopping is an area that can get many a sissy busted, but there are privacy strategies you can use to reduce your risk dramatically. Amazon items can be shipped to an amazon locker for pick up, which is a great option I have used myself. I highly recommend that you create a secondary email for all your sissy related stuff, including purchases. You can have packages delivered to a trusted friend, or even work if you can get packages there without someone opening them or rousing suspicion. If you use cash you can forgo any credit card statements. You can also buy prepaid visa or mastercard gift cards if you need it for online shopping. You can also purchase Vanilla Gifts Cards, but if you use a VPN, know you have to turn it off to access the gift card. If you are shopping in person, travel outside of where you live or work to do so. Its worth a bit of a hike to remain completely anonymous. If needed, get an extra bank account for all your sissy items and have everything sent, including electronic statements, via email to your sissy email.

Browser History & Digital Footprint

Another place people get caught is through their browser history or digital footprint, but again, there are strategies you can use that drastically reduce this risk. The first is to use private browsing mode or incognito, so that it doesn’t track where you go. You can create a separate browsing profile for all sissy activities, or if you want to be doubly safe, use a different browser option that you typically use. You want to clear your browser history, your download history, and your cache after every single session, religiously. I actually looked up the safest browser and found a alot of references to the Brave browser, which I hadn’t ever heard of. But essentially if you combine the VPN with a paid subscription, it will encrypt all the data on your device, and it features an Off the Record session that automatically deletes the cache, history, cookies, permissions, etc once you leave the session. Also using a Tor Browser is a really safe option, safe enough where it has been banned in several countries. Tor uses DuckDuckGo for search queries so nothing is logged or stored. You can use its Reset Identity button to clear everything from that profile within seconds. You also want to use encrypted folders and apps and ensure that you have a password on them. You will want to store all photos, video, and other evidence in these encrypted, password protected folders. There are apps that hide other apps on your computer, such as Calculator Vault, App Hider, Hide App Premium and more. These types of apps create an icon that looks safe, one that won’t pique anyone’s interest should they go looking on your computer like a calculator or clock or other boring things, and are password protected. Ensure all your device are password protected, and if possible, get secondary devices that are exclusively used for sissy related activities. Once you are done using your devices(s) then lock them back up in the same place you store all sissy related items, so it won’t be discovered on your person. You can create two factor authentication for a lot of apps and sites and even devices, so when possible, do that. Be careful of smart home devices like Alexa and Goggle home, as these can store voice commands such as “Alexa, show me cute babydoll dresses for sissy girls“. Additionally, you want to watch out for home security cameras or ring cameras- those things are everywhere now. 

Social Media

You want to create sissy or kink dedicated accounts that are separate from your regular accounts, and be sure to not like, share or follow any sissy related accounts or posts on your main accounts. Use your sissy related email, separate from your main email, to create these accounts and don’t use your real names. Do not open sissy related social media on any device that is shared. Be sure that you log out of the account completely when the session is over. You can also delete these apps from your devices if you don’t have a dedicated device and just reinstall when you want to use them. Don’t delete your accounts, just the app itself. Use two factor authentication here as well. There are apps that have advanced privacy features like disappearing messages, full end to end encryption, and password protection such as Snapchat, Telegram, Viber and WhatsApp. Additionally, if you want a really safe option to play, consider joining Enchantrix Empire. We are a safe network of likeminded perverts who operate a confidential platform. That said, all the advice still holds- don’t use your real name or info, password protect, browse securely, and clear your cache, history and cookies.

Securing your Photos

We have covered a bit on securing your photos but I have a couple more tips to share with you. Be sure you turn off your location services and tags when you take pictures. Do not use cloud storage on shared devices. Consider using encrypted photo vaults- Keepsake Photo Vault in particular actually takes the photo in app and therefore skips your local gallery altogether. Secret Photo Vault has a great feature that essentially creates a dummy pin WITH a dummy gallery of photos you can upload, in case you are caught and someone forces you to show them whats in the account. Finally Gallery Lock offers encryption and password protection and also offers a stealth mode so that the app icon cannot be detected on your device unless you know where to look for it.

Makeup & Grooming

A huge part of the sissy journey is playing with makeup, but you do need to be more careful because its hard to come up with an explanation if you are caught red handed. So there are some options here to ensure your safety and privacy. You can underdress in situations that you are not intimate with someone, such as at work, but be sure you are able to meet your bathroom needs. You can do things like get pedicures and manicures without being a crossdresser these days, and use clear nail polish or just buff your nails. You can also use press on nails for when you are enjoying some girl time, which are easily removed with no fuss or muss. You can use unisex scents that still feel feminine such as cedar oil, or any essential oils for that matter, as a plausible excuse is that you are using them for their therapeutic value and not because you are a sissy… but know what the values are for the oil you are using so that you can rattle it off on demand. Use clear glosses or natural stains that feel good to wear, but aren’t super noticeable if you aren’t looking for them. You can get waxed and groomed under clothes if you aren’t safeguarding your privacy against someone you are intimate with or can think of a decent excuse. Honestly, a lot of swimmers and cyclists shave their body hair because it makes them faster in the water, so as long as you have back that up, it makes for a great little excuse. Shaving can also highlight your muscles, so if you work out and can pull off a little vanity, then that makes for a nice excuse too.

Now if you do use makeup, be sure that you have makeup wipes on hand for a quick cleanup. Make sure that you are putting every little thing away, including grooming tools, sponges, brushes, etc. I use oil based cleansing balms and they melt the make up off your face really easily, and then emulsify to remove everything. I use Beauty of Josean or Medicube brand- the Korean skincare is to die for and is really reasonably priced. If out and about consider having pre-moistened cleansing wipes available. Speaking of skincare, that is another area where it is completely acceptable for heterosexual, non crossdressing, non queer men to do. Skincare is for everyone with skin, and truly, it can make you feel, and look, like a million bucks when you have plumb, glowing, firm skin. Hair care is another thing men are absolutely able to take advantage of without ringing any alarm bells, and can really make you feel sooo good. Now the last thing I would like to remind you about is to consider your trash and be sure that you aren’t throwing out trash in shared bins, especially if you aren’t the one to take the trash out. Likewise, you want to watch out for your laundry. If you aren’t the person who solely does laundry or you have shared hampers, you may want to store all your dirty sissy clothes in a sealed bag until you can safely launder them when you know the other person won’t be there, or even at a laundromat. You can also handwash things separately, just remember to give yourself enough time to do so and dry them out before placing them in sealed bags, or you will come back to a science project instead of a garment. All of these things take time, and if you live with someone, you’ll want to make sure you time yourself out accordingly. Don’t take silly risks, and leave yourself cushion time. Be well organized and use compartmentalized bags or containers in your main storage area so you can take them out and put them away quickly.

Ready Made Excuses

Now let’s say you do everything here, but somehow, someway, you do get caught. Have ready made excuses for having those items, such as researching gift options for the women in your life, or that you were helping a friend by storing these items for them, or its a gift for an office friend, whatever makes sense in your life. Again, grooming acts can be explained away by claiming you are exploring swimming or cycling, or want to work on muscles definition and being hairless showcases that better. Whatever excuse you have decided upon, have it ready made so you don’t stumble if you are caught.

So these are just a couple of things you can do to safeguard your privacy as a sissy girl, or a submissive man, and you don’t want people finding out about it. Big shout out to Kathi King for some great strategies included in her video, and I hope you use these tips well. I think I will be planning a part 2 on this subject for KINKology: the psychology of kink in terms of what to do if you are caught, or if you don’t want to be an undercover sissy anymore- maybe you want to be a sissy out on the world instead, right? So be on the lookout for part 2, which will probably come in the new year.