WHAT IS AN IGNORE KINK?

 

Ms Becky Intelligent Phone Sex Calls 1 800 601 6975 Ignore Kink Screenshot 2024-10-08 110615An ignore fetish, often referred to as an “ignore kink” or “disregard kink,” revolves around the act of one person ignoring the other for the pleasure of both. The dynamics often play on themes of desire, longing, unfulfilled desires and power exchange, turning the act of ignoring into a form of emotional play. An ignore fetish can manifest in various ways, typically characterized by one partner deriving pleasure from being deliberately ignored or disregarded by another. This kink may seem counterintuitive to the untrained eye, but it invites deep emotional dynamics that can offer unique psychological benefits

At its core, this fetish may manifest in multiple ways, such as:

  • Physical Ignoring:  One partner intentionally neglecting or overlooking the other’s presence in a sensual or sexual context.
  • Emotional Disregard: This could involve not acknowledging the other partner’s feelings or desires, allowing for a deeper exploration of submission. think mean girl vibes, but intentional.
  • Verbal Ignoring: Engaging in conversations or activities that entirely exclude the submissive partner, providing emotional distance that is thrilling in its own right.

The complexity and nuance of the ignore kink create fertile ground for exploration for the discerning kinkster. While this behavior may appear harsh, it’s important to recognize that, within the realm of consensual kink, these dynamics can provoke intense emotions often rooted both in sexual fantasy and within authentic psychological needs. So, you see, I’m actually helping when I ignore, deny, demean, and humiliate you. You’re welcome, ya ingrate.

 

HOW DOES AN IGNORE KINK DEVELOP?

 

Ms Becky Intelligent Phone Sex Calls 1 800 601 6975 Ignore Fetish Domination Bootcamp Screenshot 2024-10-07 175609So, how does one come to discover or develop an ignore fetish? Like many kinks, the origins can be varied and very personal, relating to upbringing and any developmental issues you may face, and can include emotional, psychological and even physical components:

1. Formative Experiences
Some psychologists suggest that our formative experiences of neglect or emotional disregard can shape our later desires. Individuals may associate feelings of desire and attention with moments of being ignored, which can translate into a kink that seeks to replicate these feelings in a controlled setting. In terms of psychology, we do tend to re-enact the lessons we learn from our primary caretakers in these formative experiences, whether they are painful or pleasant. Thats basically the bulk of psychology, tbh. There- I did it. I finally taught you all of psychology. We replicate formative experiences over and over and over.

2. Power Dynamics
The ignore fetish plays with power dynamics, power exchange and vulnerability. For some, being ignored or disregarded can elicit feelings of intense submission, creating a satisfying contrast to their everyday lives where they may hold more authority or responsibility. The dynamics of control heighten excitement and exploration. Also, for a submissive, bringing pleasure, adding value, serving your Mistress brings you happiness, fulfillment and purpose. It underscores your lack of power in the dynamic, which can be an effective tool in training. During these times, its almost an act of love towards your mistress.

3. Cognitive Dissonance
The psychological principle of cognitive dissonance can lead individuals to develop a fetish for scenarios that involve tension between wanting to be acknowledged and willingly being ignored. Cognitive dissonance is defined in the oxford dictionary as “the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change”. This conflict invites a layer of depth to the relationship and can become an exciting aspect of play. So the tension created becomes sexualized and instead of being painful, it becomes exciting… or some combination of the both.

4. Fantasy and Escapism
Engaging in an ignore fetish allows individuals to escape everyday emotions and situations. By consenting to be ignored, participants can immerse themselves in fantasies that distance them from reality, producing euphoria tied to feelings of longing and desire. Fulfilling their mistresses or dominants desires to use them without receiving anything from them can result in an almost subspace experience, as you sit there, being used, but still, quiet, alone. It creates a rich atmosphere for have a really vibrant internal experience. It can be almost meditative or spiritual in nature during these times.

 

 

PSYCHOLOGICAL BENEFITS OF EXPLORING AN IGNORE KINK WITH A PROFESSIONAL FEMDOM

 

Ms Becky Intelligent Phone Sex Calls 1 800 601 6975 Femdom phone sex FemdomPhoneSex_funsessionsExploring an ignore fetish can yield numerous psychological benefits, especially when done with a professional femdom. Here are several key advantages to exploring this particular kink with a professional:

1. Heightened Intimacy
Trust is critical in any kink dynamic, and working with a professional femdom fosters a safe environment. Engaging in ignore play can deepen emotional bonds as each partner learns to navigate their feelings of control and surrender. I actually explored the concept of intimacy with “Vulnerability is your Superpower” on KINKology, as well as an article exploring intimacy with a deeper dive on femdompodcast.com, if you want to explore this a bit more. Also, I will say this: A relationship with clear expectations, clear responsibilities, and clear communication are the underpinnings of intimacy, imho. When you work with a professional versus exploring this with laypeople, I guess would ne the term, you are able to create a space customized to your own desires, needs and centered upon your submissive training. The agendas in other types of relationships aren’t always this clear, you know what I mean?

2. Understanding and Awareness
A skilled femdom can help participants unpack their emotions surrounding their fetish. By discussing desires and boundaries, individuals can better understand their motivations, leading to personal growth and insight that can improve their life in many ways. Same holds true for developing communication skills, learning how to put your complicated internal states into words. In my former life, I was a mental health therapist and I will say this about counseling: a huge amount of counseling and therapy is about learning how to increase your awareness as well as your communication regarding your sensations, impulses, and emotions. It is not a skill that is prioritized in our culture, and consequently, we have an abysmal skill deficit in our ability to do this. Engaging with a femdom provides opportunities to articulate desires, boundaries, and limits, ultimately enhancing openness between partners—an invaluable skill beyond kink.

3. Safe Exploration of Vulnerability
Engaging in an ignore fetish allows participants to address vulnerability in a safe and structured environment. This exploration fosters resilience and courage, as they confront feelings tied to self-worth and acceptance through play. Not only would this encourage courage… this is an experience that can result in increased neuroplasticity. Basically, if you are able to face a nervous system threat while still remaining in your window of tolerance and not avoiding this experience, you teach your brain that this threat is actually not a threat. Once you do that, your reaction to this won’t be as strong. Think of it as exposure therapy for a phobia- little by little you begin to decrease the intensity of your reaction to this trigger, which could lead to very real psychological benefits in your life and in your relationships. If you have an issue with rejection that negatively impacts your relationships or self worth, this type of play could be a great tool for you to resolve that.

4. Catalyst for Fantasies
Professional femdoms often have a wealth of experience in guiding participants through complex scenarios. This expertise helps individuals safely dive into fantasies involving enjoyment of being ignored while ensuring psychological comfort. And you know what that means- spank bank refill. And this isn’t just applicable to Mistresses- I get some of my best dildo riding material from my sessions and they dont always come from me. Listen, our people, the kinksters, we are fucking creative, friends.

5. Empowerment through Submission
Ironically, the act of being ignored can be profoundly empowering. Embracing a submissive role under the guidance of a professional can lead to increased personal agency as you uncover new aspects of yourself and your desires. It can result in a deeper connection with your mistress, increased self worth as you surrender all control, surrender your need for attention and validation. It can be healing. For those who are in training to perfect their submissiveness, this is truly a necessary skill to learn. Even if your dominant does not enjoy the ignore fetish, per se, there will be times in your relationship that you will have to put your need for attention and validation aside in favor of the needs of your dominant. Perfecting the ignore fetish is an essential part of any submissive training curriculum.


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