Why I Love Primal Sex

I want to explore Primal Sex. If we have spoken, you have probably heard me mention my passionate for this particular fetish revolving around accessing the most savage, primitive parts of ourselves for an ultimate battle for sexual supremacy. It combines everything from playfulness to sadomasochistic play, to allowing for both my submissive and dominant sides to play together at the same time.

So what is Primal Sex?

At its core, primal play is about releasing your inhibitions and allowing your most primitive sexual instincts take over, fucking like cave people from days gone past, no shame, no dignity. Raw, sexual passion. Primal sex refers to a form of sexual expression that taps into basic, instinctual motivations and drives. It is characterized by a return to fundamental desires that harken back to more raw, primitive encounters forbidden by polite society. This might include rougher play, elements of domination and submission, and a focus on the physical sensations over emotional intimacy typically found in other forms of sexual encounters. The concept aligns with a broader understanding of primal behavior in sex that can invoke deep, instinctual responses in people. This can include a focus of predator/prey dynamics, biting, kicking, scratching, physical hand to hand combat as well as savage fucking.

What is the appeal of Primal Sex for me?

So I want to describe to you from a first hand perspective on why I find this dynamic utterly thrilling and arousing, because I think it will give you a bit more of an understanding of what this kink is and why people find it appealing. For me, primal sex allows me to access my submission and my dominance at the same time, which is wildly exciting to me. I love play fighting and wrestling, it feels primitive and savage and makes me feel truly alive. When you are in a scene, you entire being is electrified, alive and buzzing, and your body isn’t just fucking. You are fighting for your life, from a nervous system perspective. It can shut down your pre-frontal cortex, where all rational thought lives, and allow you to just exist and fuck. All the pesky thoughts and distractions face away under the intensity of the experience, which to someone like me that ha a very busy brain, it is so refreshing to not have to think, to simply exist and feel.

It also allows for my playfulness, especially at first, and allows for my own savagery to come to the surface. I run and kick and bite and scream and fight for dominance, in a playing field where my body is absolutely on equal footing to a man’s. You see, primal sex isn’t about physical domination and strength, its about sexual dominance, and my body is very well suited for that. This soft, wet pussy is a lethal weapon in primal play games. I can absolutely claim the dominant position by overwhelming my opponent with unbearable lust. Primal sex provides a space for me to be the hunter, seeking out the relief that my body requires, and taking what is mine. It can also be a space for me to surrender to my softer nature, to be the object of relief for another, which also has its appeal.

A typical primal sex scene with the situationship (my long-term play partner) would start with both of us feeling the itch and circling each other in a predator/prey dynamic- or sometimes- two predators vying for control. A lot of times what we are fighting for is the right to be on top, so as we begin to fuck, I can be bucking and fighting my way to the top, so I can grind against that dick the way I need to, you know? To get there, I will bite, scratch, kick, buck against him while he asserts his dominance by holding me down as best he can. For us, I will say that he pulls his punches (and before you get outraged, just using an old turn of phrase- he doesn’t actually punch me). Its just a battle of wills, playing out the war of the sexes in real time. It makes sex feel epic and adventurous, as if it transported you back into time.

Closing Thoughts on Primal Sex 

So listen, I found this really cool, really fun, all-encompassing epic fetish that makes my toes curl, and my hope is that it does the same for you. If you want to learn more about Primal Sex, please check out my Primal Sex Primer or feel free to hit me up at becky@enchantrixempire.com to continue the conversation.

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