Sadomasochism: A Very Brief Overview

We are going to do a right quick vocabulary review. A sadist enjoys hurting people, and a sexual sadist experiences the most delicious arousal from your gasps and moans of pain, your tears, and from painting your body red, black and blue. A masochist is someone who enjoys being hurt and is the natural complement to the sadist. Together they form the “SM” portion of BDSM (which if you did not know I would truly love to hear how you stumbled across this blog, lol). Sadomasochism is the giving and or receiving of pain & suffering for the sake of sexual pleasure.

Let’s talk chemistry: A brief overview of pain

Without getting too bogged down in the science of pain, I do find it appropriate to discuss a bit of the chemistry behind pain when dealing with sadomasochism. Essentially our Central Nervous System (CNS) is designed to relay all sensory information from our body to our brain and responds to stimuli in the most appropriate manner. When you are hurt, your nerves receive the sensory data and transmits the data (i.e. the pain) to your brain. In very simplistic terms, a cascade of internal processes results in the CNS releasing a variety of neurochemicals to help modulate your pain. Turns out, our bodies have our backs in some pretty major ways, as the chemical dump of serotonin in our bodies can produce the most magnificent high.

When subjected to pain the body releases:

• Endorphins: pain relieving, opioid effects
• Anandamide: the bliss chemical, binds to the same receptor as cannabis does
• Adrenaline: raises heart rate and excitement
• Dopamine: the chemical associated with reward and pleasure
• Serotonin: the euphoria chemical

Additionally, if you are enjoying some yummy physical contact during your sadomasochistic adventures, you will likely also secrete oxytocin, the love chemical. Again, I will not be going into too much details regarding the internal process, but I want to assure you that the chemical cocktail our bodies cook up to deal with pain can be simply divine to experience. Matter of fact, the experience of this chemical cocktail in BDSM is commonly referred to as “sub-space”, a feeling of deep and intense euphoria.

CBT & Me: Why do I love hurting you? 

Honestly, this question may never be fully answered in a way that will truly do it justice, but I am going to give it a whirl nevertheless. For those of you not yet acquainted with my favorite pastime, CBT stands for Cock and Ball Torture, which is a form of impact play. When Ihave an intense CBT session, I get so much gratification from the willingness of my pain slut to take all of that delicious, searing pain for me- the willingness to suspend the primal urge to protect yourselves and take whatever pain I want you to take is a heady feeling of power and control.

Watching your eyes glaze over with pain and lust as you beat the most precious part of you in the most painful areas makes my pussy so wet and swollen. There are times I even sneak my hand down to play with my lips and some other favored spots as I watch you beat your cock for me. Sometimes my pussy ripples from pleasure at the very moments yours throbs with pain and you suffer for me, and that dynamic of me being pleasured with you being pained is simply. fucking. divine. 

It’s important to note that although I very much seek to cause you pain and suffering and to hurt your cock, I never want to cause HARM. Hurting you relates to causing you pain, whereas harming you relates to causing you damage. My sadomasochism tendencies are very intense, but not yet destructive, and I ultimately want to share my favorite pastime with you as an act of generosity.

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Sadomasochism & CBT Sessions

HOW TO CONNECT

So how is a sweet innocent subby like you going to experience this sweet chemical cocktail that I can whip up in your body? Well, there are a couple of ways to make that happen:

• We could have Skype chat sessions, which are handy if you need to be quiet and cannot talk. You will, of course, be expected to take photos as directed and put them in the chat, so I can see how you paint your pretty little cock red, black and blue for me.
• *BEST OPTION* One way video skype sessions, which allow to see AND hear you following all my orders. I can see the pretty pink marks blossom in real time on your skin, I can see the pain land on your face, and I can effectively control and monitor your body’s response to the pain. We can connect over skype after you purchase minutes on www.sexytexting.com or if you call the 1-800 number directly.
• Make sure you let me know you are looking to explore sadomasochism with me when you do connect, so we can start reviewing the necessary details.
• If connecting over skype is problematic to you for any reason or you would rather call dispatch directly, please email me first at becky@enchantrixempire.com for more details.

HOW TO PREPARE 

• I favor wooden spoons, rulers, fly swatters, nipple clamps, flat hair brushes, chip clips, and binder clips (for the brave), lol
• If you have other fun toys, like a ball crusher or paddle, have them available and be prepared for show and tell.
• I love figging, so it would be swell if you had some fresh, peeled ginger root available. Pickles would work as well.
• I prefer you naked and vulnerable from the get-go, although sissies should come all pantied up so I know who the real men are (if subby boys can be called men, lol) and who are my sissy girls. Sissies, you have my permission to adorn yourself as elaborately as you wish- I enjoy seeing you in your most sissy girl clothing!
• If you take cock in your ass or mouth like a good boy, have some cock available in the session. This can be dildos, fun phallic veggies or bananas, or simply something sanitary with a surface that can be cleaned with disinfectant that can be inserted in your cute little rear end or in your sweet subby mouf 😉
• Mind your angles- if you want to have the session without showing your face, that is perfectly acceptable to me. Just take some care in setting up your angles.

THINGS TO CONSIDERED & DISCUSSED IN SESSION 

• I enjoy debasing subbies and having them suck and fuck cocks for me while they hurt themselves and their cute, little subby cocks for me. Let me know if the bat if bisexuality is a hard limit for you (which is disappointing for me but also perfectly acceptable, ok?)
• Be prepared to discuss any limitations and preferences with me off the bat. Know thyself, subby, and be prepared to state your hard limits (or soft limits, so I know where to push you, lol) and deepest fantasies explicitly and in detail.
• You will be pushed, but I need to know that you know your limits. I have a wonderful appetite for pain and I can go for a fuck of a lot longer than you. Push yourself, but also know when you need to stop.
• Be prepared to beg, not demand, at every turn for anything you desire. The exception to that rule is if you truly need to stop. Since we are not in person, I have to trust that you will support in in ensuring that you are hurt, not harmed.
• I will want you to eat your cum. Those of you not willing to do so will have to beg me nicely, ok? I will, regretfully and resentfully at times, respect your boundaries, but I get quite the thrill at making you eat your nasty ass nut.
• I am the perfect balance between a strict, mean mistress and a sensual mistress, combining the strength of my will and desires with my natural warmth and sensuality.

AFTERCARE

• I don’t ever seek to break the skin, but if by some unfortunate accident that you do bleed for me, you are expected to wash your genitals with warm soap and water (nothing more caustic than that, please).
• I recommend a hot bath to ease your aching cock (and any other areas we played with), and as a second best option, a nice hot shower.
• Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any concerns or become very emotional afterwards (which can happen and is completely normal)

You can connect with me via email or connect with me on skype to hammer out any details prior to the session. Mmm, hammers, lol. I look forward to hurting you!