Submission Essentials

Its one thing to gravitate towards submission & the BDSM stratosphere because its delicious and naughty and forbidden fruit by the standards of the painfully dull, or simply because it makes your private parts tingle. There is absolutely nothing wrong with those who find our merry band of freaks for a simple little dalliance, or to satisfy their curiosity with our naughty delights before you return to the “real world” a little bit happier and a whole lot more experienced. If this applies to you, you are more than welcome to our community and I invite you to stay as long as you like. Who knows- you may just decide to make yourself at home here, yes?

But for the more sincere submissive, the submissive mindset is equally as important as the physical acts of submission, such as body worship, cock sucking, pain play, etc. And to achieve this level of submission, a certain set of skills and practices will be helpful, if not necessary, to master (pardon the pun, subby boy).

Submission & You

It goes without saying that it is the job of the submissive to submit to the will of the dominant, but I would take it to a much deeper level than that. True submission is an acknowledgement of the CHOSEN division of labor between two people, spelling out the roles and responsibilities of each party, customized to the deep-seated needs and desires of each party. This is why you see so many BDSM relationships punctuated with an explicit contract outlining the responsibilities, roles, limits and expectations for each party. Essentially each party knows how to satisfy their end of the contract if it’s done right, correct?

But what about when no contract exists? How does a good subby boy know if he is properly satisfying all the expectations and demands his mistress has for him?

Well, I have good news for you, subby boy. I have created this guide for you, to keep your silly boy brain (if you even qualify as a boy, lol) on track and giving me what I need.

The Expectations for your Submission

So let’s cover the basics, yes?

Respect. Of course, it should go without saying that respect is an essential component to how a good submissive subby boy or sissy girl is some motherfucking respect (ain’t that right, Aretha?). But I need you to actually sit with this concept for a while. Do you truly have a respect for the time, resources, skills, experience and all the genuine affection being poured into your worthless vessel? No matter who your mistress is and how she desires to use you, you can be sure that she will insist that you treat her with the respect she deserves. Respect for her time, talents, and treasures.

Obedience. Any dominant worth their salt is going to insist on your obedience, although hard and soft limits should always be negotiated beforehand. Any areas that have been discussed and that you are given clear instructions, obedience is a given, yes? No self-respecting Mistress is going to fuck around with a subby boy or sissy girl who won’t do as they are fucking told. Plus, you know that we know more about what you really need then you do, so you can be confident you are in good hands.

Hard Use. LOL, alright you got me. Maybe this is just with me, but I very much to put my fresh meat through the paces, so to speak. Every mistress will decide what ways she wants to use you, but getting to know what your mistress desires should be a top priority. You can check out my blogs on body worship, sadomachism, cock sucking, chastity & cages, and small penis humiliation to get sense of mine. Dominating tiny-cocked losers or feminizing a sweet sissy girl to my specifications is my calling, and I aim to have a good fucking time doing it. When I have a submissive man or sissy girl kneeling before me, the experience of power is so heady it can all but take my breath away. Its not only the thrill of ownership, especially of commandeering my very own fleshy cock, complete with attached, functioning nervous system (mmmm, sadist heaven!). It’s not even the truly heartwarming trust you sweet boys and sissy girls place in us, giving us your soft and vulnerable tummies, so to speak, giving us free range to do as we will, though I’ll be honest and say that it is absolutely a huge perk. To me, its the power of knowing intimately exactly how I am impact, make you feel, what you need, and how to give it to you.

Submission Essentials: Financial Considerations

So as many of my fellow Mistresses, I am fully financially supported by the work I do at LDW. I use my time, talent and treasure to milk you and milk you good, and as with any service provider, I expect to be renumerated accordingly. Additionally, any good submissive should want their mistresses needs, ALL OF HER NEEDS, to be met and satisfied, yes? A Mistress cannot give you what you need if she is not getting what she needs. 

So let’s take a closer look at ALL the ways you can support the needs of your mistress in this arena.

PLAYTIME

So playtime actually is at the top of the list because its truly not only a financial consideration- the basis of our entire relationship dynamic is playtime and I cannot hurt or control what I cannot engage with. But yes, it is also important to make sure that your favorite Mistresses are given both the playtime and the financial support that comes along with playtime. Purchasing minute packages, either through dispatch or via www.sexytexting.com, is a great way to ensure your Mistress is getting her needs met.

VIRTUAL BOUQUETS & VIRTUAL SPANKINGS

So you can think of both virtual bouquets and virtual spankings as a tip of sorts, one given to acknowledge the talents and services of your mistress, and one given to acknowledge your shortcomings. If you have a great call with a mistress, you can gift her a virtual bouquet via dispatch on the call. You advise the mistress you want to send her a bouquet, she will hung up, you do NOT hang up, and after your gift dispatch will send you right back to her, not a minute of your time wasted in the transaction. Now, I also offer Virtual Spankings, which should be purchased without having to be asked in acknowledgment of your shortcomings or because you fucked up and want to make financial amends to me.

WISH LIST & GIFTING 

You see that handy dandy little gift box on my blog that says wish list? Well, inside you will find the hopes, wishes and dreams of each Mistress (on their respective pages). Gifting a Mistress a gift off her wishlist is a great way to ensure that she receives everything she wants and is a great way to distinguish yourself as a considerate and worthy submissive. You can send gifts, contribute to other larger ticket items, or even give send some gift cash her way. since the dawn of time, the mens have been gifting us with pretty baubles and creature comforts to seek out our favor, and well, may it never change, LOL. There happens to be several subbies who take care of me quite nicely, but always room for some more. Check out Ms Becky’s wishlist.

PRODUCTS & AUDIOS

Check out the Phone Sex Assignment Store and the Erotic Audios for your favorite Mistress’s product offerings. You can also request Custom Audios for your favorite Mistress to record especially for you, in a fantasy designed by you. Feel free to check out Ms Becky’s Store to see what is currently available. I am waiting on a new computer to start recording some new audios, but I already have the storylines down in my filthy mind so don’t forget to check back so new products.

Submission Essentials: Beyond Financial Considerations 

Many of you filthy perverts have dirtier minds than you have thick wallets (samesies!) and I am not wholly unsympathetic to your plight. So what is the thrifty subby boy to do to support his Mistress? Well, I have some ideas on that front too….

KEEP IN TOUCH

NGL, I very much like to keep the lines of communication open and to be able to find you when the urge hits. This may not be EVERY Mistresses preference, but I like it when I am connected via Twitter (@MsBeckyenchants), Skype Me, or email at becky@enchantrixempire.com. Also, join Enchantrix Empire (our own sexy social media site) and swing by to say hi! Most mistresses run their own promotions and cost saving deals (so you CAN keep us in the style we have become accustomed to without breaking the bank) on Enchantrix Weekly, with new editions dropping every Monday. Finally, signing up for Perk Points will save you hundreds of dollars on phone sex domination, audios and products, and allow you to spoil your special lady with all those savings!

WWW.RATEMYCALL.COM

Review outstanding calls (and let’s face it, they all are) on www.ratemycall.com, sharing with your mistress exactly what you appreciated about her session with you. This is a tool your Mistress can use to tempt other subby boys to their eventual ruin and will help grow her business. For me personally, a lot of my former reviews where the subbies praised me for my excellence were lost in the transition back, so I very much appreciate it when my subbies take the time to leave a review letting people know how excellent my services are.

TWITTER (fuck you, Elon)

Most of us Mistresses have hung our hats up at Twitter because other platforms just won’t let us be our filthy selves. As most businesspeople do, we also promote & grow our businesses on the platform. It’s super simple to help-a-hoe (lol, no shame to my game) these days. Like, follow and share her content. Play with her. Evaluate her message to feed her an ever-changing menu of sweet subby boys to make all her dreams cum true! Honestly, I personally love it when my subbies become my unpaid marketing team. Honestly, having a bunch of perverted friends on twitter also keeps me from getting bored in-between sessions, and makes for some spicy content as well. Follow Ms Becky on Twitter.

Closing Remarks

So now that you know the essentials of supporting your Mistress, ensuring her needs are met, and availing yourself to be used thoroughly you can be a good fucking subby for me, yes? If we haven’t been introduced yet… why not? I can be sweet… sometimes.