A very special shout out to Aussie Jim for being my sweet subby muse. I am literally dripping in appreciation to you.
Hello there, subbies. I have to tell you a bit about how I recently came (pun fully intended, I assure you) to this incontrovertible fact. Picture it- there I was in session with a thick cocked submissive ginger with a dildo balls deep in his ass, and I was just so inspired by how the act of him taking that cock deepened his submission and how pleasurable it was to see him at his most vulnerable and responsive to the feeling of being cockful (I just officially made this a word, ok? I will NOT be taking questions on it, thanks 😉
So this got me thinking… Is being fed cock a necessary part of a submissive’s diet?
Yes, being fed cock is a necessary part of a submissive’s diet.
Now, I know this is going to be controversial and let me explain- I honor people’s boundaries…while also happily pushing them as far out as they will extend. If being fed cock is a hard limit for you, that will be honored and you will not be shamed…much. But as far as an ideological foundation for a steady diet of cock to deepen and grow your submission- this theory is solid as fuck, sweet boy.
And when I say fed, I mean one of three things, in order of impressiveness:
- feeding that sweet little ass pussy and pounded it into you
- literally opening your whore mouth and sliding it into that hot, wet mouth
- or the massively less impressive consuming the juice of a man cock (and yes, we deduct points for using your own juice vs another man’s juices- more on this later…).
Being Fed Cock: An acquired taste or a world-renowned delicacy?
So, the cock squeamish among you are probably crinkling your cute little sub nose’s in disgust, asking yourself if you absolutely must suck a man’s cock in order to fully express your submission. And the answer is… not exactly, although I must confess I do so love seeing a man on his knees taking a hard cock for MY pleasure.
If you mistakenly believe that sucking on a real man’s cock is unpleasant or “just not for you” I am quite content to allow you to continue to labor under that misunderstanding of our human sexuality. You can be fed my lady cock, or any phallic representations of a man’s cock, as an alternative. Just know that your reaction is unnatural and one you have been conditioned into by this prudish and uptight society that us perverts have been saddled with.
Ms. Becky, WHY must I be fed cock to be a good submissive?
BECAUSE YOUR SUBMISSION IS ABOUT YOUR MISTRESS’S PLEASURE, NOT YOURS. Submission, by its very nature, is about transcending what makes you uncomfortable in service of another’s pleasure. Moreover, its about the rewards available to a person who is willing to confront their own fears and self imposed limits when they are finally able to transcend their own comfort in service to another person. If taking a hard cock makes you uncomfortable but makes your Mistress happy- surrendering your resistance to cock and giving every single hole you have for her pleasure will only serve to grow your submission, along with your bond to your Mistress, who will see you sacrificing for her benefit.
What if I don’t want to be fed cock to deepen my submission?
Again, this does not mean that you are a “bad” submissive if you don’t want to take cock like a subby bitch should. Submission is a life long journey, and hopefully you will always seek to expand your submission outwards, and the fears that hold your boundaries in place will naturally start to shift and move. If you are trusting, honest, and open to potentially expanding those boundaries outward, then I would engage in a little process known in psychology as systematic desensitization to help you overcome your fears, sweet boy.
I can feed you my finger, swish it around your mouth to test my new resting place, and then start to slowly thrust them in and out of your mouth for you- getting you accustomed to being used in this manner.
I can use a sweet, yummy banana in your mouth, so when your lips close around its flesh, you can simply taste its sweetness sliding in and out of your sweet mouth.
We can work up to using my strap on, so you can really learn how to please me with your sweet mouth, or your tight little ass pussy, just the way I like it.
If need be, I could even arrange a nice cheering section for you, to encourage you while you are being fed cock in your ass or in your mouth. Would you like that, sweet subby?
“I’m scared of being fed cock- please help Ms. Becky”
Ok sweet boy, I can help. No need for those first time cock sucking or fucking jitters, eh? Here are just a few tips to get you started:
- Lube is your friend, no matter what hole you are using. Saliva works in a pinch, but I am also known to open that filthy mouth fuckhole and pour in some lube if/when needed. Should you be lucky enough to use it while being fed cock, thank your Mistress profusely, understood?
- ^This applies doubly for your ass, since your asshole is inferior to a pussy, which actually self-lubricates all by itself. Also, a thicker lube is going to be better than a thin liquid one, so a silicone based lube will work perfectly. Just be aware that they degrade silicone based toys, so dont intermingle them, ok?
- When your mouth pussy is being used, it helps to breathe through your nose. This encourages as much cock to mouth contact as possible, and avoids any disruptions to your pleasuring that cock!
- USE THAT WHORE TONGUE OF YOURS- in addition to that warm wet cavern, make sure to increase your partner’s pleasure by engaging your tongue. Stiffen it and let it run across the bottom of that cock on every thrust, flatten it and curl it around the shaft, run it around the edge of that mushroom head.
- Go ahead and push out you ass like you are getting ready to go to the bathroom as the cock is entering you- this will help relax your muscles so you can accommodate a cock.
- If you are among the brave who are using a REAL cock, make sure you attend to safety- use a condom. Anal sex does increase your chances of infection with an STI, as the ass doesn’t self-lubricate and the friction is more likely to result in micro tear.
- Skip the enema, unless that hits your perv funny bone- it actually can irritate your tight little hole, cause dryness, and potentially increase the risk of STI. Just wash up and tidy up, ok?
- Regardless of which hole is being fed cock, make sure you try out a bit of training first, either by yourself or with a partner.
- Have a safe word in place, and in cases of your mouth being used, work out designated signal that you can use in the event that your mouth is…full.
“Ms. Becky, I am still scared and need you to talk me through it”
Ok, sweet boy. I will be oh so happy to guide you through this in great detail. Also, if you wanted to learn how to serve ME orally in all my glory, not just my lady cock, be sure to check out my guide to oral servitude. Let chat soon.
Ms Becky! What a powerful blog you have here. The more I read the more I get to know you! You certainly understand how to walk your resistant pets down that rabbit hole! Desensitization is a fantastic way of helping the submissive , little step by little step to the place you need them to be!
See you around the Empire, Sexy! ????
I fucking adore you and look forward to many more years side by side, here at L(adies) D(ominating) the W(orld) 😉 Catchy, no? Ms. Hannah herself came up with that!!!
How exciting! I’m finally getting around to reading this post after sharing it happily on Twitter, and looking forward to digging into what seemed like a controversial subject, and not only do I find that you laid out your take beautifully, Miss Becky, but also that the inspiration for this post is one of My very favorite playmates as well!
He IS a delicious little inspiring fuckslut subbie, isn’t he?
Anyway, what a lovely explanation of the nature of submission! When I’m being glib, I like to tell My subbies that their sexual orientation is obedience, but I like the way you put it better!
I literally have a fucking Mistress crush on him so hard- you should have seen the thick cock he took for me just last night. I mean, honestly, I love that ginger fuckhole!!!
oh oh oh !!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, you love that, dont you sweet twirl girl!!! Curtsey for me, and show me your crinkle panties like a good girl!
i dont i dont like it
curtsey curtsey curtsey
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LOL Belinda, your mouth says no no no but your peanut says yes yes yes, don’t try to fool Ms Becky! I know your secrets! Ha!
oh oh Pwease Ms Erika, shush pwease
oh oh twirlllll
Submission is my mission.I will take the cock for a Misstress
Mmmmm, you sound fun & obedient. We should connect 😉
This is likely true for the submissive that he should be consistently fed cock but there is a chance that the mean won’t want their cocks sucked by a submissive male.
True….BUT we can always work on your begging skills & cock sucking skills, and see if between the two we can make you more enticing to those thick cocked boys, right?
Wow did this post just hit close to home. While you used the term “systematic desensitization” my ex used the term “conditioning.” They are both essentially the same in that the mistress is manipulating her sub to get on board with what she wants regardless of how the sub initially feels. You sound brilliantly devious and that is something that I can relate to whole heartedly via my ex.
What you have described works extremely well as I can personally attest to. There is a danger involved in this however and that is the sub is desensitized, or conditioned, to the point that he is moved along the Kinsey scale. This can result in a multitude of feelings ranging from confusion and embarrassment to hunger and longing.
After reading this post and looking at your pics I was left thinking like I was being punked or something. You are eerily similar to my ex Kim.
Lol, well Kim must have been both gorgeous and brilliant! Thank you for this feedback, and I could use a well-trained & conditioned subby- feel free to hit me up sometime!
She is still both gorgeous and brilliant as you seem to be.
Lots of cocksucking on the internet & phone. But real life ? I used to be able to get unlimited opportunities for cock nice ones. I went to a semi nude gay beach that had a reputation for cock sucking. Massive bulges in g strings or thongs meaty outline of the head showing . I would prance and wiggle my ass wearing a pink g string on my two inches. Pinching my nipples virtually begging for the opportunity to suck the cocks. Then comes a signal he slides swimwear off to the side shows the meaty DICK . I responded . Then it’s off to the woods behind the beach .Ohhhh ouuu the memories of cock sucking ohhh dick dick dick. Used to be so much fun and easy to get. One time there was a nude man sitting in a beach chair . I slid my g string off to the side and put my cock in his mouth . He sucked me. ! Another time I seen a nude man sunbathing and told him he had a nice dick. Off to the woods and I am giving a blow job. And now days I am sucking a dildo or backing up on a suction cup mounted dildos or sticking a frozen stick of butter in my ass. The opportunities are gone!
I only have to be coerced into sucking cock if it is a cock I find unattractive or have not tried yet. Otherwise I am eager and extremely willing If it’s shaved and circumcised it’s getting sucked not doubt about it. If it’s BBC I haven’t had it yet yes I need help getting to suck that . I have seen the joy on women’s faces on porn sucking BBC . Also need coerced into sucking hairy and uncircumcised cock.